The Liebster Award

WOW! This is exciting, just over a week of my blog and already I feel so much love! Thank you to Lichtern from oraculargrace.wordpress.com for the nomination! I am truly honored that you even read my blog, let alone liked it! This award is specifically for bloggers that have less than 200 followers, and I must say since starting my blog getting followers to read your blog is quite a mission, so this is definitely a worthwhile award in order for new blogs to support each other!

The rules are as follows:

  • Post the award on your blog. 
  • Thank the blogger who presented this award and link back to their blog.
  •  Write 11 random facts about yourself.
  • Nominate 11 bloggers who you feel deserve this award and who have less than 200 followers.
  • Answer 11 questions posted by the presenter and ask your nominees 11 questions

11 Random Facts

  1. I love reading. A lot. I started as a child who had to take the bus for an hour to get to school in Swaziland every day and never made a single friend. Harry Potter became a wonderful companion and this started a great love affair with books.
  2. I went to 7 different schools before the age of 10, this was not due to any misbehaviour just due to my parents moving a substantial amount.
  3. I live in South Africa. No I do not ride elephants to school. Nor do I have cheetahs in my backyard. I have however touched a cheetah, held a baby lion; baby crocodile; and baby leopard.
  4. I am an introvert that enjoys entertaining.
  5. I love having coffee by myself in beautiful coffee shops.
  6. I am deeply passionate about politics- a fact that not many friends know about. Especially South Africa’s political shenanigans.
  7. I love animals, all animals- even snakes.
  8. I am petrified of the dark, and even at the age of 23 I struggle to walk outside in the dark on my own.
  9. I love children- hence my choice to study teaching.
  10. I studied law first. I hated it!
  11. I love learning. Not necessarily studying, but definitely learning.

11 Questions that Oracular Grace wanted answers to:

Q: Why did you start your blog?

A: I started my blog about a week ago now, the reason is slightly more complicated I think. With the recent acceptance of being an introvert, I realized that social settings are not necessarily where I enjoy expressing my opinion- yet tat does not mean I don’t have opinions that I would love to share. I also have always been told I should write- I have tried (a few times) with futile attempts at novels, in order to satisfy my need to write I thought a blog would be a good place to start- to organize my feelings, in writing. 

Q:Who or what is your greatest inspiration?

A: I am inspired by many different factors. Many books have shaped my life, and I am very inspired by the writing of Ayn Rand, James Joyce, TS Elliot, Paul Caelho, JK Rowling, Alan Paton and many, many more. I am deeply inspired by the plight of so many African Woman, they are so forgotten in the patriarchal white dominated society, many of them having to work ridiculous hours in demeaning jobs, yet still going home and looking after children and trying their best to provide for them.

Q: What is your favorite genre of books or movies and why?

A: Book genres: I love classics (a la Joyce and Fitzgerald), romantic classics (enter Miss Austen), I also love historical fiction(hello: The Book Thief). Historical Fiction combines two loves of mine: History and Reading.

I am quite ashamed to admit that my movie choices are very, very cliche: I love Rom Coms- the more gooey and predictable the story line the better! Give me The Notebook, or Friends with Benefits any day. I also absolutely love Midnight in Paris, and Paris Je’taime.

Q: If you were given the opportunity to host your own talk show what would you discuss with your guest?

A: To be honest- I would be mortified if I had to be the center of attention while talking to people in front of any kind of a crowd, let alone if it was recorded for more and more people to watch. If there was a way to host without actually appearing in front of people: I would love to help young women come to terms with who they are. Oh and probably books- or something educational (once a teacher always a teacher)

Q:If you were given the means to make a difference in the world, what worldwide problem would you decide to challenge and why?

A: Definitely education. In South Africa due to our horrid past, many schools are severely under resourced, and many children (most of whom have terrible home situations) never get the oppurtunity to learn which means they never get the oppurtunity to rise above their situations. This is the same in most African countries and in countries such as India which I have visited.

Q: Where were you born and raised and if given the choice where would you prefer to have been born and raised?

A: I was born in Pretoria, South Africa. And spent most of my “being raised” years on a farm in a village called Mooi River in Kwa-Zulu Natal (also South Africa). I loved it- but regret having to ever leave.

Q: What part of world would like to visit?

A: On the top of my to travel to list at the moment is Turkey. I love visiting different places and different cultures- and this is a place with deep cultural history that I have not visited yet.

Q: What is your favorite time of the year and why?

A: As mentioned on my blog- I love spring! New growth, green trees, new flowers- whats not to love.

Q: Name one crisis you overcame and how?

A: My dad was murdered 5 years ago. It was tough to overcome, however with the help of family and friends as well as time, I have finally come to accept what happened, to forgive the person involved and to be able to think about the happy memories I had with my dad.

Q: Describe your idea of the perfect day?

A: Starting with tea in bed, followed by reading a book in a wonderfully, sunny garden. Followed by coffee at a beautiful coffee shop. Maybe a lunch with some family. A wonderful afternoon run. And a glass of (red) wine with dinner and friends.

Q: Name one thing you plan on accomplishing before you die and why?

A:  I will write a novel, whether it is published or not is besides the point. School teachers, lecturers, parents, friends- have all told me I should be a writer which I have never actually managed to get right. To prove it to myself I would love to write and finish a book.

 

11 Questions I would like answered

  1. What is one thing your parents taught/ showed you?
  2. If you could tell your 13 year old self 1 thing what would it be?
  3. What is your favourite time of day?
  4. What do you remember most about school?
  5. If you could choose to be in any time or place in history what would it be?
  6. What would the first thing you would do if you swapped genders for the day?
  7. What is your favourite pastime- why?
  8. When you have had a good day- how do you like to celebrate?
  9. What is your go-to- move when you are sad?
  10. Where is your favourite place in the world?
  11. Why did you choose your blog’s name?

The Blogs I would like to nominate are:

http://peacfulyogamama.wordpress.com/

http://getmebetter.wordpress.com/

http://neuroticsandloners.wordpress.com/

http://ladyunemployed.com/

http://teenageintrovert.wordpress.com/

http://havau22.wordpress.com/

http://ofopinions.wordpress.com/

http://aworldofintroverts.wordpress.com/

http://tegzdelacey.wordpress.com/

http://hollyindiadexter.wordpress.com/

http://bmdevore94.wordpress.com/

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Dinner Party Panic Disorder

I have recently discovered a giant flaw in my personality. A juxtaposition if you will. Or maybe it is an undiagnosed social anxiety disorder- Dinner Party Panic or DPPD maybe. If I had the patience to start a Psychology degree now, in 3 years I would definitely do my honour’s thesis on this exact topic.

The subject of this thesis would be: ME, of course(I’m not sure what the ethics would be surrounding doing a study about myself however). The scenario: I absolutely love dinner parties, I love cooking, I love decorating and I LOVE the hours spent on Pinterest that go with choosing the right recipe’s and themes. I send out the invites, do the shopping, start the cooking and lay the table…. And this is where the panic sets in. What if some people don’t come at the last minute? How will the table setting be messed up if that happens? What if they hate the food? What if the different groups of people don’t get along? What if there is a looong awkward silence? Will I be expected to fill it with some witty repartee? This is usually accompanied by what could definitely be diagnosed as a severe panic attack by most healthcare professionals. I often consider cancelling a dinner party just before the guests arrive, or even just leaving a note saying “Enjoy the food- sorry I couldn’t make it, thank-you for coming though”!

I must be honest that usually these dinner parties run without a hitch and somewhere after the second glass of wine and the main course I actually find myself having a decent time, some could even use the word fun. Goodbyes are said amongst giggles and thank-you’s. Yet afterwards as I sit washing dishes, I breathe a sigh of relief, as if I’m letting out a breath I’ve been holding all night.

Somehow I continually find myself in the same position, while I type this blog after I have just sent out the invites to a dinner party on Thursday and am busy scouring Pinterest. Roast chicken or Lasagna? Or chicken lasagna? Or maybe little mini chicken lasagna’s made in muffin tins (Pinterest idea, not mine). But what if they are gluten intolerant? Or hate chicken? Or hate wine?…. The panic of an introvert that loves entertaining, never a panic free moment!

Spring is in the air

Here in the Southern Hemisphere we are entering into the magical season of Spring.  Spring for me is like the beginning of a romance, the wonderful awkwardness of a budding relationship is like the clumsiness seen as a baby bird wobbles around the nest. The butterflies in your stomach equate to literal butterflies seen on every blooming flower. And as with new love when you see the world through rose coloured spectacles, every morning in Spring feels like you are seeing the world anew. However much like love, I am horribly allergic to Spring. My favourite season brings literal tears to my eyes with each new sneeze.  I am on constant medication to stop my eyes from swelling shut, to stop me from wanting to scratch my own eyes out… Yet still I love Spring. Each year, I like forward to it with nervous trepidation, yet hopeless excitement.

Much the same as I still love, LOVE. After every horrible breakup, or hookup that goes nowhere, every unrequited love affair, or hopeless crush- my faith remains strong. The romantic in me has a good cry, filled with every hopeless cliche of comfort eating and marathon reading sessions. But then the minute the metaphorical weather starts to change in my love life, and there is a new bud starting to bloom, it is as if every hurt or allergy is forgotten and all I see is the beauty all around. Heres hoping I finally find the love that transcends the seasons. That I go through a season of passionate summer with someone, and even a season of comfortable winter- but that a season of butterfly filled Spring is always near.

Hello Spring. Hello Love